Lelaki Itu Aku: Meneroka Faktor Kecurangan Lelaki Dengan Wanita Berkahwin (That Man Is Me: Exploring the Factors of Men's Infidelity with Married Women)

Abstract

Meneroka faktor-faktor asas yang mendorong lelaki untuk terlibat dalam kecurangan dengan wanita sudah berkahwin adalah penting bagi memahami dinamika kompleks hubungan ini. Mengenalpasti faktor-faktor ini dapat memberi pencerahan yang lebih mendalam terhadap tingkah laku kecurangan. Objektif kajian ini ialah untuk mendalami dinamik psikologi dan sosial yang mendorong lelaki memilih wanita berkahwin sebagai teman wanita walaupun ianya adalah satu perbuatan yang salah di sisi agama dan perundangan. Dengan menggunakan pendekatan fenomenologi, kajian ini membuat temubual mendalam dengan empat (4) informan dalam lingkungan usia 30an dan 40an yang pernah atau sedang menjalinkan hubungan cinta dengan wanita yang telah berkahwin. Data temubual dianalisis menggunakan analisis bertema untuk mengenalpasti secara mendalam pengalaman peribadi informan kajian ini. Hasil kajian menunjukkan bahawa motivasi utama lelaki curang bersama wanita yang berkahwin antaranya ialah perkahwinan/hubungan sedia ada yang bermasalah, perwatakan wanita berkahwin, rasa ingin tahu, penerimaan orang sekeliling, serta peluang untuk berinteraksi samada secara bersemuka mahupun interaksi digital moden. Dapatan kajian ini menyumbang kepada perbincangan berterusan akan kepentingan kestabilan perkahwinan dan kompleksiti hubungan manusia. Implikasi kajian ini menekankan keperluan untuk intervensi dan kaunseling yang disasarkan bertujuan mengukuhkan ikatan perkahwinan dan menangani punca kecurangan.Kata kunci: cinta; kecurangan; hubungan sulit; Malaysia; perkahwinanAbstract: This study explores the motivations behind infidelity among men with married women. The objective of this research is to delve into the psychological and social dynamics that drive men to choose married women as partners, despite it being wrong both religiously and legally. Using a phenomenological approach, this study conducts in-depth interviews with four (4) informants in their 30s and 40s who have had or are currently in romantic relationships with married women. The interview data were analyzed using thematic analysis to deeply understand the personal experiences of the informants. The results show that the primary motivations for men engaging in infidelity with married women include existing problematic marriages/relationships, the character of the married woman, curiosity, social acceptance, and opportunities for interaction, whether face-to-face or through modern digital interactions. The findings of this study contribute to the ongoing discussion on the importance of marital stability and the complexity of human relationships. 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